Dating can be as exhilarating as riding a rollercoaster or as draining as watching a giant pot of water come to a boil. Sometimes you want it to end and other times you wish time could stop so you can prolong the moment. You never know what is going to happen on a date especially if it is the very first one.
There are a few rules everyone should follow when you are on a first to help keep things flowing smoothly. The first thing to remember is that your date does not want to hear about the last person who broke your heart. Discussing past relationships can be appropriate if it is done is a tongue in cheek, self depreciating way. If saying the name of your old flame still makes your heart pump harder or tears to prick in your eyes avoid the topic entirely. Nothing says ‘stay away’ more than droning on and on about someone else.
Do not talk more than five minutes about yourself. A pause or lull in the conversation is good; it will allow the other party to formulate a response. If they ask a question pertaining to the topic of ‘you’ then answer freely but once again, do not talk longer than five minutes. Monopolizing the conversation only makes you appear unappealing and vain.
Don’t be rude. Use your manners. If you are rude to the waitress or others around you it is a glaring character fault that will turn a potential partner off. Kindness goes a long way. Nice guys and girls do not finish last; they go one to run marathons in the endurance competitions of love.
Save the hearty and controversial topics of religion and politics for the third date. Getting to know someone is a long process. It is wise to take things slow and peel the layers off one at a time. First dates can be terrifying but knowing what not to say or do is the first step to scoring a second date.
